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Are You Choosing… or Just Reacting?

Updated: 5 days ago

Abstract green curves and spheres, symbolizing internal reflection and the flow between reaction and choice
You’re not stuck — you’re repeating what once felt safe.

We like to think we are the authors of our lives. That we make conscious, empowered choices — in love, in work, in who we become. But what if… we’re not really choosing at all?

What if most of what we call “decisions” are simply reactions? Reactions to pain. Reactions to fear. Reactions to a version of love we learned too young to question.

You didn’t choose the partner who ignores you — you reacted to a familiar ache that told you: “This is what closeness feels like.” You didn’t choose to silence your truth — you reacted to a buried terror of being too much, too loud, too different. You didn’t choose to give up on your dream — you reacted to an old script that whispered: “Don’t get hurt again.”

Most of us live on autopilot, repeating the past and calling it fate.

But here's the truth that can change everything:

You cannot choose freely until you see what you're reacting to.

Until you stop. Until you look at the moment your heart flinched — and ask: “Is this a reflex… or a real decision?”

Awareness begins when we pause long enough to recognize: This isn’t who I am. This is what I learned to be.

And in that pause, a doorway opens. Not to reaction —but to real, raw, courageous choice.

If you’re tired of repeating the same patterns and ready to meet your true self beneath the reflexes, I’m here. Explore the work with me. One layer at a time.

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